Thursday, July 21, 2011

Katelyn

This past year or more has been really difficult for me with feeling so detached from my 2 brothers during current (never ending) family issues. Especially when there is a wedding in our future, and I want both my brothers in it. 

I have cried so hard at times in recent months over my brothers. I've thought to myself in those moments that it was almost like a high school breakup, in that- the pain, the loss, and the heartache literally hurt so much, I felt like I could die. It's ridiculous how much I love my brothers, and how much I hold on for dear life when I am with them (though I never act like it or they would be creeped out LOL.) That sibling love was more apparent when they both seemed to choose a side in our family fighting. I was devastated, angry, and felt betrayed. Christmas of 2010 put me in such a depression, that I sought out group therapy on my own and went for quite a few months.
Currently, I am talking with the older of the two brothers, and thankfully, he has spent a lot of time with me (and Erik) and we've done a lot of pretty fun things recently. It means so much to me that we can spend some quality summer time together, he has no idea how much I value it. "Better one, then none" is what I tell everyone. 

Katelyn & I at the Engagement Party

But family drama really makes me wish that I had a sister, someone to break things up and throw a curve ball in. Sometimes I truly believe that if I had a sister, our sibling bond wouldn't be broken or mettled with no matter what was going on with the rest of the family. I feel like a sister would hear me out, know I was telling the truth about how things really went down, and would stand up in my defense. Not that she would choose sides, that's not what I want, but she would be my voice when I needed someone to step up and say, "no it didn't happen that way" or tell my parents "this isn't right and you know it."


Myself, Katelyn, and Erik in Duluth.


Katelyn, Me, and Erik

Thank god for sister in laws. She is amazing (she's for sure the SPOILED child) but amazing. She is so fun to be with, we are two peas in a pod. She's educated, has an awesome sense of style, and a really sarcastic humor. She's a little spit fire. That's a recipe for disaster for me ;)
I love spending time with her, it is so therapeutic for me to have a bond like this with her as my future sister in law. She knows me for me, she knows what kind of person I am. She always wants to be included, and she's excited to help plan our wedding. We love you!!

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